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taste good

The baby drank shampoo today. I was cooking and it was a little too quiet and then I thought I heard a weird slurping noise. I found the baby sitting in her bathtub in the bathroom with her back to the door. Upon closer inspection, she had a large shampoo bottle in her lap and was pumping the shampoo out. Shampoo was pooled around her legs and covered her clothes, mouth, and chin.

I snatched the shampoo bottle away, crying “Baby, you’re not supposed to drink that!” and I could almost swear that she exclaimed “taste good!”

I called Poison Control and they said other than making her tummy upset that she should be fine.

Very hard to feel like a competent parent after having to call Poison Control.

Today was also notable because it was the first day that I took her back to the gym’s daycare. The last time she was there was a few months ago and it was disastrous. She wailed, hit, batted proffered objects out of the staff’s hands, and she desperately clung to me, frantic at the thought that I might leave her. With such a momentous start, I didn’t bring her back – until now. As a new mom, I had been ignorant that separation anxiety starts around 9 months…..

This time was very different. When I opened the little swiss door to the play area, the baby walked right in and ran to the ride on toys. The staff – who remember her well – shooed me away. I had actually planned on spending an hour with the baby in the play area to get her accustomed to the space and staff, so I hung out in the lobby in case they needed me. After 20 minutes, she noticed that I was gone and started crying, so they called me back. Once I was there, the baby was happy to see me but didn’t need me there to play with her. I think she just wanted to make sure that I was close by. I’m helpful that it’ll get to the point where I can leave her for an hour.

Also, the baby’s vocabulary is rapidly increasing. Here’s a list of the words I’m fairly certain she  say: hi, okay, dada, mama, blue, cracker, duck, vacuum, telephone, good, wait, yeah, no.

A  day ago, I was folding laundry and asked her, “Baby, what’s this?” as she walked by.

“It’s a shirt.”

Shocked. A big pause. I was sure I had imagined it so I held up a different shirt and asked a second time.

“It’s a shirt.”

I folded some more clothes and then held up a dress. “What’s this?”

Silence. Not sure if she knew it was a shirt or if she was just bored with the question. Perhaps both.

She’s babbling a lot. Gibberish to me but she says the babble very deliberately, purposefully, expressively. It’s like she’s speaking a language I don’t know. A few days ago, she was cracking herself up on her own story and jokes. Yesterday, I could almost swear that she was making fun of my clothes in baby gibberish. Sometimes, I think I hear English wrapped up in the baby talk because I’ve thought I heard her say “I didn’t mean to argue that” once and some other phrases that she couldn’t possibly have said. M thinks that I must have imagined her say “taste good” today. I’ve also thought I heard her say “I know that” when I told her I loved her before leaving her in her crib for a nap.

Ah, mommy brain. I’m not sure what’s real or imagined as far as the baby is concerned.


hanging out with grandpa

Today was not a day set aside to do anything really except to have the baby spend time with her grandfather so it was very lazy and leisurely which was what, I think, all of us needed. The baby has been tired the last 2 days or so, not even standing up in her crib when we come into her room. She has a mild fever and although quite cheerful and playful most of the day, she started to lie down during playtime which is not usual. If she’s not better by tomorrow, I’ll call the pediatrician and possibly take her into the doctor on Monday if needed.

The baby went out for a half hour walk with her grandfather in the morning, and we opted to cancel baby’s haircut appointment for what would have been her first haircut. Sharp pointy things and a sick, cranky baby who hadn’t napped long enough just didn’t seem so wise. We did hang out at the house most of the day and the baby quietly played with her toys, but we did manage to get out and walk to the local Chinese shopping center and introduce the grandfather to the joy of soup dumplings. We also let the baby walk around and gave her some eggshell waffles. She was tired toward the end though and a bit wobbly on her feet, so we put her back in the kokopax and walked home.

She didn’t get much mommytime today but she did want me to read her books and put her to bed so we ended her day, like pretty  much every day, with hugs. She babbled a lot while I was rocking her, like she was telling me a story and going “yeah, yeah, yeah” and talked herself to sleep after I left the room.

fixing a flat, a burst pipe, and grandpa in town

Things accomplished today: Waited a little less than an hour at the tire place while they patched a tire with a slow leak. Good news was that the patch was complementary. Bad news is that the tire tread has run out, probably from being driven with low air pressure in the tire, so we’ll probably need to replace the tire – or rather two tires since it’s best to replace in pairs. Checked out my neighbor’s backyard which he designed himself with an orchard area, a garden area, and a pond area all in one compact space. He did a beautiful job and even built these gorgeous trellises in his backyard. Grandpa arrived in town from a business trip so we went to the airport to return his rental car after baby had a snack then went straight to the park. Afterward, we came back and found the contractors sitting on the driveway, waiting to drain the pool…. We fed baby dinner then we all went out for an adult dinner together at the Fish Market and I had raw oysters and smoked trout. Finally, I can feel free to eat seafood again!

Tomorrow’s plans: Visit with grandpa and hopefully babysitting! I am especially hopeful about sleeping in this weekend since grandpa starts the day early.

Baby’s new tricks: Nothing really new. She’s teething and may have a touch of a cold so she’s fussier than normal. At the tire place, she did discover a water color and was especially attracted to the red lever so I had to keep dragging her away from there. She also seemed to recognize her grandfather right away since she didn’t treat him as a stranger although it did take her a little bit of time to place him or get comfortable.

interrupted sleep cycles and bad English food

The baby woke up at 2am and decided that this was a fine time to stay up and play so it was only with considerable protestations and co-sleeping that we finally got her back to sleep around 5:30am. Looking back, it’s amazing that we got through the baby’s first three months, but then my sleep habits were more in sync with hers at that time. Sooo painful to wake up and move when interrupted in the middle of a sleep cycle.

Things accomplished today: So, not much accomplished today. Lack of sleep makes me truly irritable and short tempered. The baby actually napped in her own crib without too much fuss for 90 minutes but I didn’t get a nap. Most of the day was spent trying to clean up in preparation for FIL’s visit this weekend but looking around me now, progress on the homekeeping front is not visible.  Went to the park. Also went to a bar with some other moms and enjoyed adult company and bad English food.

Tomorrow’s plans: Baby gym. More cleaning. Possible playdate in the afternoon.

Baby’s new tricks: She walked halfway home either by herself or “pushing” the stroller.

My head is pounding now. Heading to bed early and hopeful that the baby will sleep through the night tonight.

music class, tire pressures, pavers and mores

The baby was very cheerful today. This entry done because I truly do not remember what happened during my day unless I write it down.

Things accomplished today: Took baby to music class and watched her steal all the toys and run away from all the activities. Adjusted air pressure in tires so that the warning light on the dashboard was no longer lit. Picked up medicine for M at the pharmacy. Ate lunch at Starbucks and discovered that Starbucks makes its own version of the sausage and egg MacMuffin. Showed paver samples to the contractors and learned that we picked different paver types from what they had in mind from the quote. Continued with the kitchen re-organization. Walked to the Chinese shopping plaza with a friend and watched the babies push the strollers around the courtyard. Practiced piano – learning the songs from the Pride & Prejudice songtrack.

Tomorrow’s Plans: Figure out the paver business since we have a Friday deadline now. Get some free formula received in the mail to another mom in the playgroup. Continue with the house re-organization and cleaning in anticipation of FIL’s arrival. Ladies night out with some friends for dinner.

Baby’s new tricks: Marching. She started marching in music class today, lifting her knees higher than she does when she walks. She marched at home a little but only lifted one leg high but not the other which was a little worrisome at first because I worried she was injured but she seemed fine upon closer inspection. She also started following me around the house with DVD cases and kept offering them to me like they were books.

I wonder if the baby liked Kandinsky. She keeps picking up a book with a Kandinsky painting on the cover and giving to me as if she wants me to read the book. She also traces the lines and shapes in the Kandinsky with her little fingers.

Currently reading: The Sportswriter by Richard Ford. Just 50 pages or so in and am not enjoying it. Something about the narrator is annoying me. Anyway, must continue with the book for book club later this month. Also reading Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn. Another slightly annoying read. While I agree with much of what he has to say philosophically, I’m not sure that he has any practical advice to provide except to keep an eye out for what lessons our kids might be learning despite our best intentions and not to lose sight of our long term goals for short term gains in effecting our kids’ behavior.


It’s been hard to find time to post – except in the wee hours when both husband and baby are asleep, and then I want to sleep, too – so this is the first time in about a month that I’ve even attempted to write in this space. I’m taking advantage of the precious time that the bear cub is asleep – or at least lying quietly in her crib and taking a brief pause in protesting her confinement – to write here so I’ll be brief.

What we’ve been up to…..

We went to Tahoe to give the baby a chance to play in the snow. She did not fully appreciate this opportunity but took what advantage of it she could, bundled in too many layers of clothing and snow gear. We made the new parent mistake of bundling her in too many layers so that she not move which dampened the experience a little.

I did my first mommy group event and co-organized a birthday party. It went well as far as mommy group events go but I’m looking forward to being a simple, happy attendee next time. I’m carrying on with my mommy group activities as an officer, but I’ve decided to step down in the fall. Must plot how to gracefully bow out of the role.

We’re planning a trip to Victoria, BC. It should be very pretty but the journey will take multiple days. Wish us luck. We’re hoping that the baby likes boats. We figure that she will and at least we’ll be in a beautiful area.

Speaking of boats, the husband and I took a rare date night for a dinner cruise in the bay. It was nice. And more significantly, the baby was babysit for 6 hours by a non-family member and she loved it.

Passover is next week so I’m on the hunt for kugel and dessert recipes…. I think I will make a chocolate orange cake for the dessert.

I’m also thinking about hosting an Easter brunch….

The baby is furthering her mobility skills by scaring the crap out of me. She’s into climbing and isn’t afraid of heights. She took a tumble off the play structure at the park yesterday and although it looked like she landed on her head, shoulder, and neck, came out unscathed. She cried and had mulch and pebbles stuck up her nose from the landing, but quickly forgot about it within minutes….

And we’re going to demolish our backyard, level it since it is multilevel right now, and fence the pool. Six weeks of contractors. Crossing my fingers….

a good day although not without a few bumps

We started the day running late to the baby gym, but the baby had a lot of fun once there. She waved at many of the other babies and parents, climbed through tunnels, went down the slide, held on to ladders, and rammed the pushcart back and forth into the wall and a pile of gym mats.

Afterward, we met Sprat and her baby at Panera. I carried the baby in and when I was paying, I had nowhere to put her except on the counter. When I took my credit card out, she grabbed it and then held it out to the cashier. She was also very good during coffee and sat in a high chair, kicking her feet back and forth and smiling. She kicked off one shoe and sock and waved at other customers, especially the ones who wouldn’t look at her.

Then more play at home, a late 2 hour nap for both of us, and the park! I met with another mom to discuss the birthday party for the playgroup that we are putting together. m crawled, cruised, and walked around the tot lot, went on the swing where one of the mom’s sons decided to gently push her, and she also crawled up the stairs to the slide and slid down the slide. Unfortunately, she likes to slide head first so I’m trying to teach her to go feet first. She was fine most of the time but the last time she slid down, she went too fast and bumped her chin. A few tears, but she quickly stopped.

She also had another unfortunate bump at home when she launched herself on a new ball which M bought for her last night. She landed square on her stomach, rolled, and then slid off and into the window. She cried and cried until I got an ice pack and put it on her head and then she would snatch it away and throw it to the floor. Since she didn’t mind my touching her head, I don’t think she was hurt too badly, but I’ve taken the ball away for now.

After dinner, she cruised around the house for a bit and played with my phone. At bath time, she expected me to entertain her and gave me her bath toys which I made sing and dance along the bath tub rim. She sat back in her tub and giggled.